Are you sometimes concerned about how people perceive you..? I know I am. This perception is especially crucial when in the company of strangers. People I am interacting with for the first time. It is important to me that I project the right image to people. Never denying my true self or who I am, by the way. I also try not to confuse a good image with the right image. What may be a good image, may not necessarily, be the right image, for me.
It is with this notion in mind that I was taken aback a few weeks ago when I met a particular gentleman to engage in a business transaction. Said gentleman was way older than I am. We were both casually dressed, but from the moment he opened his mouth, his speech was riddled with expletives. Seriously, his speech caught me off guard. And what he spoke about most of the time bordered on complaints, about life in general, and accentuated by foul language. Here is where I had a problem, he didn't even know me, was meeting me for the first time. Shouldn't there be a certain level of respect? I'm sure it is warranted, and that it goes both ways. Now I'm not saying that I have a consistently clean mouth, however I don't think you will find me amongst strangers letting off curse words just because I want to add something to my personality or even worse, trying to blend in. But I do mind my language because words go a long way. I like to think that based on my speech people would be interested in interacting with me on many more occasions. Just as much as a gentleman needs a clean and polished look. He should also strive for his character to be of the same quality. And yes, words can make or break, therefore by choosing them carefully you are saying that you are an individual who thinks before he speaks.
PG: Man to man, generation to generation.