Monday, February 28, 2011

There's Something Swaggerific About...

There's something swaggerific about putting your hands in your (suit) jacket as opposed to your pant pockets. It's a style that definitely separates the men from the boys. I have consciously adopted it as well because I find it comfortable and that it helps me avoid the infamous school boy look, which, to the discerning eye does very little in endearing itself to the viewing audience. One could say it is a style almost synonymous with Italian men, however anyone can execute it. Whether it's one hand or both, swagger you will exude. You will stand out for all the right reasons and for those reasons you ought to give it a try. There's nothing more to say on this issue, however you can browse the rest of these images to see exactly what I mean.

Last three images taken from the Sartorialist.

PG: Man to man, generation to generation.

Wednesday, February 9, 2011

Guest Post: Attraction Fashion

You've seen her before. The 6 foot blonde/brunette/Asian/redhead (insert personal preference here) with legs to die for and a laugh that makes you think of the wind. Her hair is silky and full and strands seem to fall into place along her shoulder blades in slow motion. Her face looks Barbie-like without the overpowered makeup, and her dress "flows"... as if the wind was caressing her body, and every click of her high heels makes you imagine more and more of the possibility of her actually walking TOWARDS you, even if it was in anger. Any interaction with this beautiful creature is an addiction encoded into your DNA.... It feels like a continuous orgasm mixed with the fear a man feels when he stands too close to the edge of a cliff. There's no clearer way to describe it.

Men are visual creatures, no doubt. But what if the description of the feeling above can be replicated with women, too? Has the possibility ever occurred to you that maybe women feel this way about men that dress and look a certain way?

Fashion has many uses, and these days most of it is used to promote expensive products by and large, consumer-based companies. Billboards, TV ads and even internet banners are giving consumers the latest fashion fix. But what is fashion really? I started my research into this by looking at the actual social value of fashion. In one way you could say that fashion can help you with:

Getting a job
Corporate Fashion

Appearing well to-do and upscale
Social Hierarchy and Class fashion

Sexual fashion
To attract the opposite (or same) sex

Conformist fashion
To establish order in military, school uniforms, teams, etc.

Leisure fashion (high class, high spend)
Consumerism and the addiction of feeling good about

Specifically, there is a sub-segment of fashion that just makes you look good and charismatic. I call it "Attraction Fashion". Attraction Fashion is:

1. A mastery of a sense of style creates masculine energy. It creates a pull from the opposite sex. Seducing with Style deals with attraction fashion for men and what women find attractive in men.

2. Attraction Fashion for men is about being able to identify what makes a guy 'stylish' beyond the brand or the color of his clothes. It is about understanding the main traits of a man that women find automatically attractive.

3. Attraction Fashion is NOT about spending lots of money or buying expensive brands. It is about spending money where it counts to convey the most amount of social value. Efficient and effective use of money should take priority over pretending to be something you're not.

4. Being able to look your best, even when you're not consciously aware of it (unconscious competence).

5. It is more than just looks and clothes: it is about mastering the right mindset that goes with an attractive personality and style.

When guys I coach master Attraction Fashion, their success rate withe women goes up. They get more glances as they walk by the street. Their approaches or interactions with women are much more positive and go way smoother. Phone calls get picked up more often, and with anticipation. Texts are returned promptly and written with more thought. Dates are arranged with ease and physical escalation happens much faster.

As you read through the glossy fashion editorials and style blogs, take a good look at which pictures signify true style and a style that gives you RESULTS. For a great introduction on attraction fashion, you can read about the Style Attraction Switches that makes a man attractive at all times.

This is a guest post by AlphaWolf aka Rich of Seducing With Style.

Monday, February 7, 2011

Pocket Square, Mr. President?

Is wearing a pocket square/ handkerchief for a head of state paying a little too much attention to detail? Or is a pocket square just another indispensable accessory, not really needed for a president's dress code? The answer isn't really clear cut. Neither do I have it. What I can say is that a head of state probably doesn't worry about wearing a pocket square because, frankly, there are other, more important issues, to worry about. A suit and tie are presentable enough.

One of the foremost folds of a pocket square is known as the presidential fold, however even with such a foundation head's of state still don't wear it. Maybe there is an issue with finding a middle ground between stylish and conservative. Stylish in the sense that, well...a pocket square is generally deemed to be an extension of one's personality, therefore choosing the right one could be tricky. Imagine the president shows up in a pocket square with polka dots, "Mr.President is feeling rather dotty today." So to avoid all assumptions and inferences, it's safe that the pocket square is treated as a no-go area.

A pocket square would add a lot to a president's appearance. Opinions, views and perceptions are not going to change based on such an indispensable item though. However if the president is casually dressed one too many times then the public's view of him would somewhat change. Think about it. President Obama looks just fine in his dark suits, solid shirts and ties. However adding a pocket square would enhance his look, even if just a smidgen. It would be different, however perceptions and views about him would be based on his performance in office rather than his personal style. This however is not an indictment of head's of state who do wear a pocket square.

There is a certain uniform conformity amongst head’s of state that don’t decorate their breast pocket. And as I alluded earlier this is quite pervasive. The underlying common denominator with all these gentlemen, at least in my opinion, is partly, a lack of style or attention to sartorial detail. I guess when you have your sights set on being the leader of a country one day; personal style and a dress sense can be largely sidelined because there are bigger things to worry about.

What I have discovered is that there is a divide between the wearers and the wear-nots. The wearers seem to have a firm grasp on style and have incorporated into their dress sense. Former Ghanaian state president John Kufuor is one such example. Not only did he wear a pocket square/ handkerchief, he did this in a double breasted suit. He also definitely paid attention to proportion and fit because as a bulky man his suits fit well. Kufuor also didn’t relegate himself to dark suits, which are a sign of conservatism; he also wore suits in light shades such as light grey. Just to showcase his style, and that a head of state can be stylish and take care of matters of national importance.

Currently, Senegalese state president Abdoulaye Wade also appears to be inherently stylish and has incorporated it into his dress sense. Never without a pocket/ handkerchief, the image below illustrates just how stylish and detailed he is. This, I surmise, could never be the work of a stylist or image consultant. The only difference between the wearers and wear-nots is the reaction they get from those among
their audience who are style conscious. You definitely sit up and take note because a pocket square commands that much attention. With or without it, however, there is a job to be done and I would hope that getting the job done, effectively and efficiently, is paramount as opposed to whether a pocket handkerchief is folded correctly.

Now, if only impending Southern Sudan president Salva Kiir Mayardit were to decorate his breast pocket, I’d say Africa pretty much takes the stakes when it comes to head’s of state with style.

                      PG: Man to man, generation to generation.

Thursday, February 3, 2011

Fashion Foolish

It's unfortunate that we live in a world that judges a book by its cover. Yes, people almost always look at how a person is dressed and from that assessment an opinion, of that person, is formed. Now, I haven't taken South African soccer players seriously for a long time. Especially when it emerged that they sometimes resort to mercenary tactics and mutinous actions, because they believed they were not being paid their just due. For me it's about respect and love for your country first. Remuneration, benefits and incentives should come second. My flippant attitude towards these sportsmen was only heightened last week when former two time PSL player of the year winner, Teko Modise, attended a press briefing to announce his departure from Orlando Pirates to Mamelodi Sundowns, in the pictured ensemble.

You know, I 'm all for pushing the boundaries and experimenting with sartorial styles, however business needs to be respected because there is a time and place for everything. When you're at a meeting with your soon former boss to announce your departure, you have to do it with style and grace. Be stylish, polished and presentable in your appearance. Gracious and humble in manner and behaviour. You don't want to burn bridges. The clown look does not work, nor does it endear you with the general populace. This fashion faux pas is going to take people a long time to get over because, frankly, we still aren't over how Modise's game has tanked since the FIFA World Cup. There's many places one can dress up as Kid Cudi and get away with it, a press briefing is not one of them.

PG: Man to man, generation to generation.